Love at First Sight: It Only Takes One-Fifth of a Second to Fall in Love
Razi Berry I’d been hit! And then everything went silent; Love at first sight It’s 1988 and just past lunchtime on campus of my suburban high school. My jeans probably had zippers on the ankles and my bangs were probably curled under and fluffed. I was probably wearing puffy sleeves. The final bell began to […]
The Likeness Between Love and Hate
Razi Berry Research Shows the More You Love Someone, the More You Can Hate Them Hatred is blind, as well as love. ~ Oscar Wilde It is said that the opposite of love isn’t hate, but rather apathy. Love, being such an all encompassing emotion of deep passion, and apathy being a complete lack of interest […]
Can Oxytocin Help Strengthen Romantic Relationships in Times of Vulnerability?
Razi Berry Crack open your heart and let the love in If you’ve ever felt vulnerable in a relationship, you’re certainly not alone. It isn’t exactly the easiest thing to share our innermost selves with our partners. Opening up to someone else can be scary. What if someone finds out who we really are…and rejects […]
Is More Sexual Intimacy the Secret Ingredient for Staying Young?
Razi Berry Regular sexual intimacy increases telomere length There’s nothing like the feeling of sharing moments of intimacy with someone you feel close, vulnerable and safe with. Someone you can really connect with. While sex as a purely physical act has its health benefits, when coupled with emotional intimacy and trust, there are further benefits […]
The Fatherhood Rx: How Dad’s Presence or Absence Affects Our Mind and Body
Razi Berry This is my third fatherless Father’s Day Though gone, my father still impacts who I am every day. The example he set, the way he moved through the world wanting everyone he met to feel welcome and important, his sense of humor, the way he was always focusing on the possibilities………. and of […]
The Power of Yes
Razi Berry Self-talk to Bring More of What You Want Into Your Life Yes. YESSSSSSSS! There is a lot of support out there for saying No. Saying no prevents you from over giving, overextending yourself. Saying no allows you to put yourself first. I’ve begun to look at it another way. I’ve started saying YES. […]
What Memories Can You Trust? All of them and None of them
Razi Berry What memories can you trust? “Memory is the diary that we all carry about with us.” – Oscar Wilde I have a hard time letting go of things. But I prefer to frame it this way: I like to hold on. Not in an unhealthy way, I’ve worked through that, but I love […]
Touch Your Fears
Razi Berry My practice of embodiment Part of my practice of embodiment is to bring more touch into my daily experience. I used to live so much in my head, which is where anxiety and worry live. Fear is different from anxiety in that fear protects you when processed in healthy ways. Anxiety is fear […]
Love Is The Drug
Razi Berry I’d been in relationships continuously since I fell hard for my first love at age 14. Four beautiful years of tenderness, and angst. Coming of age. Then, a series of long-term missing the mark, hanging on too long, and giving up too soon relationships. When I faced divorce, I first thought… When I […]
The Secret Life Of Negative Emotions
Razi Berry Is your heart heavy? Like this heart of stone. Do you feel weighed down by holding such betrayal or unrequited love? Or is it frozen solid in fear? That one tug of your heartstrings will unravel everything you keep sacred. That if you get too close to love’s light you might melt through […]