(NaturalPath) According to a study out of the National University of Singapore, parents may have high expectations of their children’s academic performance and some may demonstrate this by urging the child to achieve good grades, while others may over-react when the child makes mistakes. However, parents should be mindful of their behavior and not push their children too far, as their actions may lead to unintended consequences. The researchers found that children with intrusive parents had a higher tendency to be overly critical of themselves and this tendency increased over the years. The five-year study extrapolated to say that these children who demonstrated high or increased level of self-criticalness also reported to have elevated depression or anxiety symptoms. A concept known as maladaptive perfectionism came to light in the study, which is commonly known as the ‘bad’ form of perfectionism.
“When parents become intrusive in their children’s lives, it may signal to the children that what they do is never good enough,” said one researcher. “As a result, the child may become afraid of making the slightest mistake and will blame himself or herself for not being ‘perfect’. Over time, such behavior, known as maladaptive perfectionism, may be detrimental to the child’s well-being as it increases the risk of the child developing symptoms of depression, anxiety and even suicide in very serious cases.”
The study was conducted over a five-year period and involved 263 children. The experiment had parents helping as much as they thought necessary as their child was solving a puzzle. The data showed that about 60 percent of them were classified as high and/or increasing in self-criticalness, while 78 percent of the children were classified as high in socially prescribed perfectionism.
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